I can sometimes be a superstitious person. I know it’s silly, but I knock on wood, throw salt over my shoulder. I don’t walk underneath leaders, and when I leave in the morning I touch my Mezuzah three times.
But, there are some things that in popular culture people think are unlucky . . . that I think are lucky! I love black cats, and I don’t think it’s bad luck when they cross my path. I think Friday the 13th is lucky to the point I even say “Happy Friday the 13th!” (This is ironic because I can’t stand saying “Happy New Year” to people . . . odd.)
However, when it comes to weddings, I find that even the most sensible of people become superstitious, even when they don’t know why these beliefs exist. So many, SO MANY brides, still, in 2013 don’t want the groom to see them before the wedding. Sometimes, it’s just because they want how beautiful they look to be a surprise. However, most of the time what I hear is still the old adage that “seeing the bride before the wedding is bad luck”, or “seeing the dress before the wedding is bad luck”. This comes from the time when you didn’t know who you were marrying and the wedding veil come from the same root.
I hear brides mention the superstition that rain on their wedding day is good luck (this one I believe). Some people still want to throw rice or confetti over the newly married couple for they see it as a tradition but actually it is an old ritual to bring fertility into the marriage. If you’re a 50 year old widow, I don’t think fertility is an issue in your new marriage! Throwing rice or confetti is something I really don’t recommend. Why? Mainly because someone else has to clean it up and confetti doesn’t biodegrade that quickly. If you want something thrown, may I recommend bird seed? That way it’s safe for birds to eat, and it will be gone in a few days. If someone misses a seed, perhaps there will be a surprise sunflower in a few months time!
People believe that it is an ancient custom to wear your rings on the fourth finger, left hand. They think that this is true in every culture and think this because someone told them there is a vein running from that finger to their heart. Well guess what, that’s just not true. Go to Europe or in old Jewish families and they wear their wedding rings on the fourth finger on the right hand.
Brides believe that they MUST wear white, even though they are not virgins, or it is their second, third, fourth or beyond wedding. This tradition of wearing white stems (in the western world, not Japan, for that is an old tradition there), from the Victorian era. It is not an “old tradition,” and personally I would LOVE to see the white wedding dress done away with.
And there are so many things that we don’t think of any more that are superstitious. How many brides rejoice if they see a spider on their wedding day? I don’t think too many would be happy if a bird pooed on their head! How many wait ’till the bells have stopped ringing to enter the church? Or remove and the replace their wedding ring before they leave the chapel? Lillies are associated with funerals, but Calla lilies are probably one of the most popular flowers right now in bridal bouquets!
Saturday is said to be an unlucky day to get married on, but I can tell you that is my busy day!( It’s become a popular day for weddings because most people have the day off. Have you ever wondered why European royalty don’t get married on a Saturday? It’s because they aren’t middle class and aren’t confined to a work week.) On your wedding day you’re not suppose to see a pig, an open grave or a nun. In some parts of India though it’s good luck to see a Hirja – aka hermaphrodite – on your wedding day!
The concept of Friday the 13th being unlucky is also a strange concept and many speculate its origin in western supersition. There is little record of this superstition before the 19th century and there are many theories as to why it is considered unlucky. Some people claim that it started when the Knights Templar were arrested and destroyed en masse in France on Friday, October 13, 1307. However, there is not much supporting this as the basis for the superstition.
But, like so many things, the fear of 13, or Fridays, or them together is not at all universal. In Spanish countries as well as Greece, Tuesday the 13th is unlucky. In Italy its Friday the 17th.
If one were to do the numerology for this year, 2013, it would come to 6: 2+0+1+3 = 6. The number 6 represents home and family – what is better for marriage then that? The number 6 is an important number for it is 3+3 and 3 is a holy number in so many cultures: the Holy Trinity, the Triple-Goddess of Maiden, Mother and Crone, the 3 Fates in Greece, the 3 Norns is Norse Mythology. The Ancient Egyptians had many triads including: Osiris, Isis and Horus and Ptah, Sekhmet and Nefertem. Three is a holy number, and if you multiply it by 2 you get 6, and if you multiply it by 3 even better.
This year, 2013, there are two Friday the 13th’s, September 13th and December 13th. Let’s do the numerology!
September is the 9th month. That’s perfect! 9+1+3+2+0+1+3 = 19. 1+9 = 10 1+0 = 1. The number 1 is a powerful number: it is the beginning. Is your wedding day not the beginning of a new life together? The number 1 does not let anything limit its potential. Since 1 is the first number, 1 does nothing but grow, and improve. I think getting married on a 1 day is a good day to get married. When you get married is it not 2 becoming one flesh?
December 13, 2013 has its own meaning. December is the 12th month, and that does not mean much (except 4 times the power of the number 3!), but 1+2 = 3. So the number of the month is 3. There is it, that special number again! A pure 3 means communication and interaction. What better for a marriage? However, the true number for this date is: 1+2+1+3+2+0+1+3 = 13! How ironic! Now, as you may have noticed, for the most part, double digits get rounded down, so it’s true number is 4. The number 4 is strong, and capable, dependable, healthy, and trustworthy. Good traits for a marriage, right?
I think there is a lot of unnecessary hype around wedding superstitions. I understand why most people who normally never throw salt, or knock on wood get edgy when it comes to their wedding – it is one of the first days of the rest of your life after all. But still, I think that some superstitions have got to go! So don’t be afraid that this year is 2013, and don’t be afraid to get married on a 13th, let alone a Friday. Don’t fall pray to Friggatriskaidekaphobia! I am so convinced that Friday the 13th is a great day that I am offering couples who get married on either of these two dates a discount. SAVE THE TAX!! which, ironically in Ontario is 13%!!!
This applies at either of my chapels – the White Wedding Chapel at the Inn or The Little Wedding Chapel on the Lane – a location of your choosing, between Fort Erie and Toronto, Ontario! So please, give me a call at 1-800-463-0884 or check us out online at www.niagarafallsweddingworld.com and book now! Friday the 13th can truly be a lucky day!
All the best! Jordin